Recently I was counseling with a man who, after 20 years of marriage found himself in the middle of a divorce. During the course of the conversation, he started telling me about friends of his that were divorcing after 40 years.
This got me thinking about how we often find a sense of security with a history of duration, but it’s not the quantity that creates a great relationship, it’s the quality. Are we still doing the small things that we often did during courtship, or do we find ourselves just sitting on the couch growing old?
While I began thinking about this in the context of marriage, the Spirit quickly challenged me into thinking about it in relationship to Him.
Both in our personal lives and the life of the church, you would think someone (or a group) who have been saved for a long duration of time would have it all together. But the reality is we often don’t.
Paul wrote to the church in Galatia, “Are ye so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?” (Galatians 3:3). Yet, here we are, 2000+ years later in the same struggle.
As believers, we often find ourselves so excited and on fire after our salvation experience. But, 10, 20, 30 years later are often lackluster. Many have never moved beyond the basics. When in reality we should be at a point of teaching, discipling and evangelizing, many tend to still be simply checking off the box of going to church and listening to the message.
I challenge you that longevity alone in relationships (be it interpersonal or spiritual) isn’t enough. Every day should be a fresh encounter – a new way to show our love and affection. A desire to get to know better our counterpart in the relationship. This is especially true of our relationship with God.
Application: What will you do this week to base your relationships on quality versus quantity? I urge you in your prayer time to ask God to show you what you can do to improve relationship with Him as well as others.